Comments on Ellecubed: Joy Diet Week Six: Treats

Love your day-by-day notations. It reminds me to d...

2009-11-07T05:12:36.591-08:00

Love your day-by-day notations. It reminds me to divide my progress into days (instead of expecting overnight results :P ) I appreciate your transparency and willingness to share your days here.

Regarding The Joy Diet, I skipped over a lot of this chapter. I don't think women are "trained" ... I believe we cultivate and grow by planting seeds of change and habit.

Maybe the treats that you desire and need are not ...

2009-11-03T06:59:52.714-08:00

Maybe the treats that you desire and need are not physical but rather deeper...just a thought. But of course, physical treats help to balance out everything else!

Wow! You really worked through a lot this week. I...

2009-11-02T13:42:54.132-08:00

Wow! You really worked through a lot this week. I appreciate your honesty about the ups and downs. Reading your reactions helps me understand this process we're all going through. Thank you! Hope play is lots of fun for you!

I too so love reading your daily application of ou...

2009-11-02T07:24:46.354-08:00

I too so love reading your daily application of our weekly item and the honesty and openness you bring to your writing.

Bravo for treating yourself to 3 treats on Day 7. Keep treating yourself all you can!

Much Love
Fatma

I so appreciate reading your week-long process. I...

2009-11-02T06:32:24.674-08:00

I so appreciate reading your week-long process. It truly normalizes the whole up and down thing for me, which is such a gift from you. Thank you.
I can hear you truly being in the process of risking...taking a few authentic steps forward, sitting with what's coming up, finding treats that work, responding with what's next. You are living it, girl!
Hugs to you!

there is nothing better than treats no matter how ...

2009-11-01T21:21:52.004-08:00

there is nothing better than treats no matter how big or small. i've said it before but i'll say it again, i love watching you transform before my eyes. be sure to treat yourself because you totally deserve it. it's been a real treat getting to know you. hugs my friend!!

I just love how each week you approach this journe...

2009-11-01T03:23:04.466-08:00

I just love how each week you approach this journey with such forthright honesty and courage. Your daily accounts speak of someone who is truly wide awake to their existence... Bravo!

I was touched by your post as well - like the way ...

2009-10-31T23:55:15.978-07:00

I was touched by your post as well - like the way you chronologed the week & your insights.
Day two sounds tough - & like you gained a lot, working through it!

Earlier this year I took part in a group previewing a book before pub.& looked up info on oxytocin & bonding (re: some incedents in the book) - women produce MORE oxytocin (the bonding hormone) when in abusive relationships!!
My sense is that it was originally important for us to bond with our 'protectors' - if a fellow was good at fighting off sabre tooth tigers, say, it would be good to have him for a mate!! Unfortunatly, if the stress is in the relationship, it still kicks in!

Blessings - & good luck with that grant!

Thank you for exploring your process so thoroughly...

2009-10-31T11:04:23.160-07:00

Thank you for exploring your process so thoroughly - I loved the laugh I got when I read Day 1 - and then you describe the humanity of the ups and downs of most of our normals lives so well. Big big big congratulations on submitting the grant proposal - what an accomplishment.

I really like the way you write down the process o...

2009-10-31T09:35:47.064-07:00

I really like the way you write down the process of going through it.
I thought about the "fake smile", am I a lucky one, because I never use it? It might be helpful from time to time. But I cannot smile, if I'm not up to it.
I am curious how play would be, I read this chapter today....
I wish you a very nice week full of rewards!

What an amazing opportunity you took with this cha...

2009-10-31T08:23:42.368-07:00

What an amazing opportunity you took with this chapter. I hope you take the time to be proud of your bravery.

Smiling. I used to get yelled at by my abusive parents that I didn't smile enough. Why didn't I smile more, they would demand. Hmmm...I wonder.

But to this day, I only smile when I really really want to, feel like it.

I never put all of this together -- that it comes from my desire to be REAL in the face of so much fake.

Thanks for clarifying that for me. :)

It is a treat to read your posts every week. Thank...

2009-10-31T08:18:26.781-07:00

It is a treat to read your posts every week. Thank you for sharing your journey so openly and honestly. New practices can be hard to implement, but totally worth in the end. xo, kaileenelise

I feel so good that I'm not the only one who had t...

2009-10-31T06:30:29.221-07:00

I feel so good that I'm not the only one who had trouble with being compared to an animal. I decided to ignore it and focus on indulging my inner child. Check out my post on more about this!

Thanks for your honesty...it was definitely a roller coaster for a minute this week but you got through it well!

Absolutely, keep on practicing. I have some intern...

2009-10-30T21:13:01.830-07:00

Absolutely, keep on practicing. I have some internal resistance to treats too, and I'm determined to keep trying. Your candor and openness are admirable. Keep up the great internal work - it looks like you're really getting somewhere with this!

I really appreciate the honesty in your post. I be...

2009-10-30T20:39:28.515-07:00

I really appreciate the honesty in your post. I believe treating ourselves well is part of a healthy diet. Your chronicles will guide you on your journey. May you find each day brings you new opportunities to smile. Remember that you are worthy of treating yourself very, very well.

I have so much respect for the work you are doing ...

2009-10-30T18:45:04.770-07:00

I have so much respect for the work you are doing with this book and appreciate the way you carefully describe your own journey. It sounds like you've made some good headway with treating yourself, and I hope it gets easier and more natural as you practice.

I'm thinking of you this week as you go on to play.

Sounds like you really hit on something this week....

2009-10-30T16:31:33.942-07:00

Sounds like you really hit on something this week. Maybe you could try treating yourself just because you are you, because you're worth it.

Congratulations on finally applying for that grant. I admire how you keep moving forward despite your hesitation and resistance. You don't deny those feelings - you acknowledge them and then choose to move forward

I am glad that I am not the only one who had some ...

2009-10-30T15:44:35.008-07:00

I am glad that I am not the only one who had some trouble with this chapter. Thank you for letting me know I was not alone. I really admire how you are working through this book and was so glad that you found several treats throughout the week that put a genuine smile on your face. I hope that you continue to treat yourself often.

I'm two chapters behind, but have enjoyed your pos...

2009-10-30T14:39:17.541-07:00

I'm two chapters behind, but have enjoyed your posts so much throughout I read it anyway (I've been trying to stay away from the new posts).

The thing I admire most about the way you've treated the whole book is your ability to be honest not only with us, but more important, with you. I have great faith that you'll scale this mountain and reach the "healing peak." Much love and supportive vibes coming your way!